Dale Carneigie, a famous writer and developer of courses in self-improvement and public speaking says,
“Inaction breeds courage and fear,
Action breeds courage and confidence,
Do not sit home and think about it,
Go out and get busy.”
We all come into this life with a positive view of the world. When we are born, we are excited, imaginative, and portray the entire universe as our playground. However, somewhere between college and middle-age many of us seem to loose that optimism of life.
Just remember the days, when we were kids? We found happiness in the simplest of activities such as blowing bubbles through a wand. Imitating the stunts and actions of our favourite superheros that we would grow up to become. Remember speaking the truth, without hesitation from our parents. Do we ever look back and wonder are we the same individual? Are we happy ? What happened to that selfless joy?
Reasons could be many. It maybe because everyone starts convincing us, to grow up and become more realistic. We have started to believe that we are not good enough to ever be the SUPERHERO, that we imitated once. And it could also be because, we are ragging ourselves trying to meet the demands of those around us. Whatever the cause, we have begun creating barriers and limiting ourselves that has caused us to either try, fail or completely give up! I believe the biggest cause for changing that youthful excitement can be summed up with one word “fear”. At some point we all become afraid and we let that “fear” stop us.
“Courage is not the absence of fear, But the mastery of it” – Victor Hugo
Taking experience from my life, when my father expired in 2010, everything came to a halt. The time was tough! My mother and me were all that were left in the family and have no one but ourselves to help or support. My mother and me both dumped our fears and supported each other. We both acquired interpersonal skills and gave our 100% or sometimes more than that towards achieving set goals and targets. With the grace of God and our collective hard work, we are doing great now.
We all fear death and I actually came out of it. The second incident, when an year ago I was admitted in ICU, affected by food poisoning. I was critical and was put on ventilator. With the prayers of my mother, I finally opened my eyes after 2 days, but I was still on life support system. Doctor said, ”If you want to get rid of the ventilator, you should try to breathe oxygen for half-n-hour without oxygen support.” With strong will power, I tried but it was tough, I struggled and while trying I was getting unconscious repeatedly. Looking at my mother crying beside me, I tried hard and finally won and fooled death.
Some of us live in constant fear, of accidents, or some people doing us harm mentally or physically. Majority of us, simply like things as they come to us, whether good or bad. Through my experiences of overcoming fear, I found a technique that’s much effective, “breaking down the solution and not the problem”. Whenever we are at big risk, we need a helping hand. Do seek a coach, speak to a friend or a mentor and arm yourself with positive and inspirational thoughts.
In case, we don’t find any mentor or support, we have to make our own way. Fight the battle alone. If luck favors, we might find both together- our conscious and a supporting pillar. The solution we get is much more effective.
Talking about my fears and how I tackled them, I would always foster, Fear of God! I fear not to harm others, do my work sincerely and honestly. Stay away from things which are against my morals and also unethical to the society. I believe in him and know most of us also do.
So kill all those doubts and worries, just think, believe and conquer your fear.